It is very possible to achieve this, however, there is no concrete formula that works for all men. Obviously everyone is different and will be happy for different things.
There are common personality traits and relationship habits that very good girlfriends and wives possess, and acquiring these traits and habits should be your ultimate goal.
show him a lot of respect
Many marriages fall apart simply because the couple stops respecting each other, or because the disrespect that was always present suddenly becomes apparent.
Most likely, you love him very much and he is a great man, so don’t take him for granted. Take time to pause and think of the few great men in the world and be grateful to have them in your life.
If he’s a decent guy (he’s not abusive, he’s gainfully employed, he doesn’t mess with you, etc.), why wouldn’t you show him your respect? After all, the respect of his wife is very important to a man, and showing respect in his actions will only establish mutual respect.
Do the little things every day that will make him smile.
It really is the little things that make the difference and can be so effective in keeping the marriage exciting from day to day.
Get up a little early to make the lunches you love to have at work. Record your favorite shows if you have to work late, or certain games if your favorite team is playing. If you see a sexy little number in Victoria’s Secret that you know will drive him crazy, then buy it!
don’t let go
This seems sexist and superficial, but let’s be honest: you don’t want him to get too fat and bald, do you? Of course not.
Humans are incredibly visual creatures, and men in particular let their eyes guide them above all other senses. Not only does he not want your personality to change, but he would prefer that your appearance not drastically change as well.
Many women get it into their heads that they can put zero effort into everything once they get married. Working, having sex, and exercising are usually the first three things to go. And they are all so important! The truth is, you can’t relax just because you’re married; that is very unfair to the man who loves you more than any other man in your entire life. You should do the opposite and put it into overdrive! Who deserves a hot wife more than your man?
Choose your battles wisely
You will get angry and there will be fights. Is that how it works.
But it’s terrible to be around a woman who constantly picks fights and causes conflict, especially if that woman happens to be your wife or girlfriend. Your friends will avoid going out with you and your guy because you are always complaining about the poor guy, and he will surely resent you and will not want to be around you either.
Keep fighting to a minimum and only start a conflict or argument if the topic is TRULY important to you.
Don’t take it out on him if it’s not his fault
Unfortunately, many girlfriends and wives make this mistake. Just because he’s there and you’re comfortable with him doesn’t mean you can use him as a human punching bag.
Having your period, not getting enough sleep, or having a bad day at work are never valid excuses to verbally attack your guy.
You don’t want to be controlled, so don’t try to control it
Don’t be a jail warden. If he wants to go out with his friends on a Saturday night, don’t throw a tantrum. If your friends want to throw a Superbowl party at your house, indulge them. It’s not too much to ask, and you’re not losing anything.
You don’t want him or anyone else to dictate where you go and who you talk to, so don’t try to dictate his life and control him.
Act like a lady at all times
Whatever happens, don’t act like trash. This includes not treating his friends and family like trash, not yelling or yelling at him in general while in public, berating him in front of other people, and airing his dirty laundry in the presence of others.
Follow these guidelines to the best of your ability and you are likely to be a good wife with a long marriage and a happy husband.
