Self-esteem is the being created in each person that makes one stand out in the fields they master.
If you kill esteem, you kill the person.
Low self-esteem denies a person the possibility of being himself. Psychologists often deal with the affected person trying to repair lost esteem, while no one tells us that the process of alleviating the disorder involves more than just the affected people.
Low self-esteem frustrates a person and can lead to depression or worse, suicide. Unfortunately, in the developmental stages, it is not well understood and is considered more of a personal problem. It becomes a family problem only when it has turned into depression.
Without each person taking personal responsibility for this disastrous fast-growing, “low-self-esteem” family, destruction can get more out of hand than it has, directly from our homes to other institutions.
Who is the cause of low self-esteem?
By looking at yourself, you can feel so secure that you have never contributed to lowering the esteem of another person. As long as you interact with people on a daily basis, you can be part of someone else’s esteem issues.
Most worrying are your closest family members, as this is where you feel the pain if you suffer losses. But keep in mind that what affects your child may be an extension of what you did to a stranger.
Some actions that lower self-esteem
As a teacher, if you humiliate an underperforming student at any level, it can implant a withdrawal syndrome into him and thus affect him at a later date. You may not believe that a teenager remembers how his kindergarten teacher humiliated him for his poor performance. And even worse, remember the teacher’s name. If you are an average student, you may not be able to convince him that you can do better.
Comparison is an esteem killer. People are taking responsibility for an upcoming event at a meeting. Someone prefers one duty to another and then suddenly; someone else yells “kids can even do better than you.” Depending on the composition of each, the effects of such a statement may not be as simple as the statement.
Constant complaints directed at the same person lower their self-esteem. I don’t like your dressing room. You can’t be serious if you don’t know such a simple thing. I did not like his contribution to the study of the Bible. Do you mean you can’t drive faster than that?
The first thing the victim will think of before they do something is “is it a mistake or am I about to ask a silly question?”
Does low self-esteem affect all victims?
You may be smiling and wondering why you don’t suffer from low self-esteem despite your bad experiences.
The reason is simple. Each person is uniquely created. It is unfortunate that most of the time we hope that people are like us instead of understanding that we cannot be the same.
A resistant person will shake off his wounds immediately, while another will cry from a similar injury for three days. The latter is likely to experience low self-esteem. It is not to your liking, but it is connected like that.
What are the effects of lowering people’s esteem?
In the long term, you will also suffer the consequences since if the person stops being himself, you will share the pain. Suppose it is your child or your spouse; you can’t escape it.
In such a condition, he cannot unleash his potential as he is in a rented state of mind. His general development falters. No matter how much you want to offer a shoulder to lean on when you need it, they may not be able to, courtesy of you.
Once you move into depression, you will spend unexpected amounts of money to solve a problem that you could have prevented.
What makes people’s self-esteem decrease?
Thinking that you know it and others don’t.
Assuming that people’s personalities are similar to yours and that they won’t take that humiliation seriously.
Taking advantage of your power to take down the other. A child is helpless regardless of age and may simply ignore their actions and still suffer from low self-esteem.
How to avoid lowering people’s esteem
Start by accepting that people should not be like you.
Reflect on the strengths you see in other people rather than the weaknesses.
Correct mistakes amicably if necessary.
Don’t discuss someone else’s weakness elsewhere if you’re not looking for a solution.
Never laugh at a mistake on someone’s face.
Learn to apologize in case your words sent the wrong message.
Listen and respond only when you are quiet. Talking before they finish makes them feel like you’re undermining their intelligence and making the situation worse.
How to stop low self-esteem before it progresses
Hear even what may not make sense to you and get involved. After all, you are dealing with your loved ones.
Create a friendly environment and be easily accessible.
How to handle a person who is in a process of regaining self-esteem
Answer your questions immediately. Ignoring him or firing him makes him feel unwanted.
Get much closer to him than ever, your lack of concern for him is an emotional advance.
Give him the opportunity to make decisions and implement them. Congratulate him for his efforts.
Encourage him by sharing real stories from people who have had similar experiences.
Gradually help her understand that the difference in personalities may have caused a misunderstanding where she shouldn’t be.
Can Low Self-Esteem Last Forever?
Assuming one has to deal with it on their own, it may or may not last forever. It depends on what the victim chooses or if they realize it is a problem in the first place.
There are only two ways to do it. Either you choose to get out of it or accept the situation as it is. To make a difference, you must address the cause of the problem. Let the person know the effects their actions are having on your life and make it clear that you can’t live with it. Whenever he hurts you, raise the alarm as a reminder and do so politely.
The experience is the greatest of all teachers. Sharing is showing interest.
