The day I was turned down for a job I was passionate about was a day my self-esteem plummeted to a new low. Do not let that happen to you. Different nubs look for different qualities, often based on their own flaws and insecurities.
That boss wasn’t ready for my answer when he asked me why I would be the best salesperson on his team. I simply said that as a single mother of two young children in a national recession, I was passionate about making money for my children and giving them a good life, so I was passionate about selling for the company and would not stop until I exceeded my goals.
I overlooked a few factors that are now screaming their visibility at me. I look at you now smiling, my own boss for 15 years, as well as having tapped with EFT to let go of the trauma. So… what did I miss? Well, for starters, the only women in the entire company were the receptionist and the underpaid lady who wrote stuff for the salespeople. The most obvious factor was when the aspiring boss asked me in the interview if she was single and she planned to have more children. Of course, these days it’s illegal to ask such a discriminating question. However, I replied that she was sterilized and had no desire to add to the burden of supporting my children and had every desire to give them the best life possible, which is why she was in this interview.
The interview was for a salesperson. I was able to sell because I thought first of all of my children and their needs. I hadn’t yet learned the technique where you find out what the buyer wants and then you sell it to them. But that was an easy technique to learn, and that would-be boss could have taught me in half a day of training, just as he did after him, where I became world famous for my sales. He wasn’t the number 1 salesperson, but number 2 or 3 in a large sales organization, so I guess he was pretty good. The only thing that stopped me from beating Mr. Number 1 was conscience. We were selling unseen advertising to very small businesses, and my conscience wouldn’t allow me to cheat a business out of what the small business owner couldn’t afford to lose.
It took me about 6 self-EFT sessions to get over the job rejection. I wish I had learned EFT before going to that interview. EFT, short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, does just that, using a mix of easy self-acupressure and releasing words. Then I would have stood up and told the would-be boss that it was a sexist thing that couldn’t be described as a pig, because pigs can be nice, and then walked away with my self-esteem intact. There was no way he would have hired me anyway, he only hired male salespeople.
As a result of plummeting self-esteem, I ended up taking a job that paid considerably less. I now run my own business and only hire passionate people who can convince me why they are passionate about the job and my company. The rest comes down to the job of being a boss, part of which is good training.
