A common misconception is that a chaste lifestyle, whether female or male chastity, is the same as a celibate lifestyle.
And nothing could be further from the truth, as I’ll share with you in a moment. It is more common for the man to be the one who remains chaste, so we will look at it from that perspective from now on. Just keep in mind that everything goes both ways.
Celibacy is essentially giving up the pleasure of any sexual contact. It’s a lifestyle (supposedly) practiced by priests and monks of various religions, and has even been promoted as a birth control strategy for young men and women, primarily by certain religious groups (aside, while celibacy is the perfect contraceptive, it doesn’t work simply because young people don’t really adhere to it).
On the other hand, while the strict dictionary definition of “chastity” is nearly identical to “celibacy,” when we talk about it in the context of the chastity lifestyle, we really mean male orgasm denial.
Because, in fact, you’ll find that when you embrace this lifestyle with your partner, you’ll end up having more sexual contact instead of less. What tends to happen is that the chaste man satisfies his partner’s pleasure in all but one way: usually either because she didn’t give him permission or through the physical intervention of a chastity belt or other device, you cannot indulge in any type of sexual activity that involves your penis.
Which is to say, he pleases her with his tongue, fingers, and whatever else he can think of without enjoying any immediate pleasure himself (and if he’s allowed to have penetrative sex, orgasm is prohibited).
I don’t want to get into why men would want this forced on them in this article, so for now, trust that they really do.
The point is, and this might be surprising (it was to me when I discovered this), many men and women mistakenly assume that a chastity lifestyle means their sex life will stop dead.
And, in fact, just the opposite is true.
Because?
Ok first…
Your man is going to be permanently horny.
You know how they roll over and start snoring within seconds of having an orgasm?
That will not happen anymore until you allow it. Also, once you’ve gotten used to the chastity lifestyle, he’ll not only be more diligent and obedient in bed, but he’ll also be much more attentive and accommodating when you’re not in bed.
I’m not advocating trading sex for favors because I think it’s the start of a downward spiral of mutual and self-respect in any relationship, but you’ll notice it becomes like when you were first together: he’s in love with you and I can’t think on no one (or nothing) else.
In second place…
You are going to enjoy making love much more!
And not just because your libido and heat will be in the stratosphere.
No, you’ll find that you get a lot of pleasure out of teasing him and pushing him over the edge, something you probably haven’t done for years if you’re honest about it.
Now consider if this was a celibate lifestyle rather than a chaste lifestyle. Then there would be no sex, no increased libido, and no attention to you. In fact, you would have more orgasms while celibate than when you are chaste, because if you are simply celibate, you will masturbate or ultimately have an affair (now I will tease people that this is not unreasonable for any man or woman whose relationship has become celibate).
So…
To sum up
What this all means (and I think you’ll find this surprising and uplifting): A celibate lifestyle (by choice, rather than perhaps illness, injury, age, or disease) characterizes a relationship that is cold, distant, loveless. and almost certainly unsatisfactory and unsatisfying for both; a chaste lifestyle, on the other hand, characterizes the complete opposite.
Relationships that embrace chastity tend to be warm, passionate, close, loving, exciting, and wonderfully fulfilling for both of you.
