Ok, so you managed to really piss off your girlfriend once again, and this time she really had it on you.
Your chances of getting it back depend on the nature of your mistakes and how you will apologize for them.
Here are some tips on what to do to get out of the kennel:
Avoid clichés, you can do better than flowers
Now is definitely the time to go into emergency boyfriend mode. If you don’t fix this situation fast, you won’t be able to be a boyfriend anymore.
Resist the urge to take the easy route here by sending flowers and a card; that has been done ad nauseam and you need to think big and think outside the box.
rethink the relationship
Just because you want to be with your girl doesn’t mean you have the ability to be her boyfriend. She may demand a level of attention and sensitivity from her partner that you cannot provide.
Plus, there’s a big difference between making a universally bad mistake and just being a flawed human being. If she doesn’t accept your simple human flaws and is trying to change who you are, beware. You probably don’t want to restore this relationship.
Have a very important and much needed conversation with your girl
Find out from her directly what annoys her the most in the relationship. Was it a mistake that you keep repeating? An aspect of your personality that is particularly cruel and difficult for her to deal with?
Listen carefully and know what you need to fix if you are going to be able to keep this girlfriend. Even if the two of you break up and the relationship ends forever, becoming a better person will only benefit you.
Address your problems and failures (professionally)
In the past, when your girlfriend got mad at you, you could temporarily calm her anger by being silly and cute; you would make her laugh, you would tickle her to make her laugh even harder. In a few days, all would be forgiven.
This time, it’s not so easy. If you have a womanizing problem, drinking problem, or something similar that is severe enough to seriously threaten your relationship, then you need to address your demons with a therapist and begin to resolve them.
Therapy is just one option, and it’s worth mentioning because it can be helpful with anything and everything.
The point is that you are trying to fix the parts of yourself that are messed up and that are keeping you from being in a relationship. The efforts you put in will not go unnoticed by your lady, and it shows that you are dedicated and also shows how you have changed.
Be consistent in your self-improvement efforts and keep improving
Anything related to self-help is very difficult. Don’t make the mistake of assuming that you’ll be a better version of yourself in a few days or weeks; the truth is that it will take much longer.
Because it’s such hard work going through something like therapy or a twelve-step program, the last thing you want to do after all that sacrifice is give up.
Take her on a romantic trip for two
Sounds a bit cheesy? That’s because it is. But believe me, girls like it corny. Works.
You don’t have to throw away an incredible amount of cash; Secluded tropical beaches and five-star resorts are not necessary.
In fact, it’s ideal if you’re driving together on a road trip, because it leaves more opportunity for communication than flying on a plane.
A weekend getaway is all you need. This is your chance to take things to another level; get really romantic and further cement your boyfriend/girlfriend bond.
Remember how good it is to be on his good side and stay there.
You’ve learned (hopefully) not to take your girlfriend for granted anymore. It is by no means guaranteed that she will always be there in your life; as she demonstrated she will leave if she feels she has to.
Now you have the tools to keep it, so use them.
