If you asked a thousand women what kind of man they are looking for, most of them would tell you: a good guy who will treat them well. But is this really the truth? What exactly does it mean when a woman says “I just want a good boy”?
Most guys who are not successful with women are good guys. And there’s really nothing wrong with being nice. It is a very positive quality. However, being too nice won’t help you get the girls you really want.
First, let’s tackle a problem that most kids have a hard time understanding.
When a woman tells you that she wants a nice boy, she probably won’t have the same definition of the word as you. She is really looking for a good boy, but guys who try to be nice often misunderstand what she means by that. The problem is that they act like weaklings around her, doing their best to please her. A woman who is looking for a “good boy” is definitely not asking to be put on a pedestal.
How many times have you heard a guy say this: “If only she was with me, I’d do anything for her! I’d treat her right, not like (the guys she’s always dating)”? Now don’t get me wrong. Women are wonderful and all that, but they are also human beings and they really don’t want to be adored, treated “right” or done everything for them. When you put a girl on a pedestal, you are telling her that she has much more value than you. And if you think she would like that, think again; No woman wants that!
The truth is that if you take a closer look at what is really going on, you will realize that there is a logical pattern behind their behavior. A woman doesn’t need a man who is desperately trying to do everything for her; she needs a man who is in control of her own emotions and can support her when she feels vulnerable. You need a person you can trust and can count on when needed. That’s why you can’t afford to be the one who adds the least value to the relationship.
If you get rid of the idea that a woman is someone like a goddess and start to face reality, she is just a normal human being, you will start to treat her that way. And isn’t this a feeling of relief?
So now that we clear this up, let’s tackle a much bigger problem.
Today, good guys firmly believe that women are only attracted to jerks. Many nice guys even go so far in blaming them for it. Sure, there are some girls who are attracted to jerks, but blaming them for it is just unacceptable. No woman in her right mind wants an idiot who will abuse her physically and mentally. The only reason these women find idiots attractive is because he conveys some alpha male characteristics, characteristics that the good boy totally lacks (this is also one reason why women prefer idiots to boys good ones).
If good guys stopped blaming women, looked at what the jerk does right, and took some responsibility in starting to improve their own situations, they would instantly become more attractive to the opposite sex.
