Although some people work to live, there are others who live to work. Naturally, these people are going to have a radically different experience on planet earth.
When it comes to the former, someone’s life will not revolve around their work and they will usually only work at certain times. However, when it comes to the latter, someone’s entire life will revolve around their work and they will spend most, if not all, of their time working.
Unbalanced
At this point, it could be said that someone will generally be in balance when it comes to this area of their life or generally unbalanced. If someone is generally in balance, he will be able to focus on other areas of his life and recharge.
But, if you’re generally not in balance, you won’t be able to really focus on other areas of your life or recharge. If they continue behaving this way, they could end up working themselves to death.
It is acceptable
The problem is that although they are unbalanced, it does not mean that the average person will realize this and end up reflecting it. This is because they can live in a society that values hard work.
In this society someone can be seen working hard and living the right way or doing very little and living the wrong way. There can be no middle ground and almost certainly no focus on work-life balance.
an endless flow
Because of this, they may be used to receiving a lot of positive feedback from others and very little or no feedback about how they should slow down and take it easy from time to time. In fact, many people could put them as an example to follow.
As a result of this, there will be no reason for them to slow down and take a step back. Still, even if they don’t slow down, that doesn’t mean they won’t be forced to.
no choice
By working so hard, they could end up burning out and then have to stop working. They may be out of action for a few days or several weeks, but however long it may be, it may not be long before they’re back to their old self.
What has happened will be a warning, but if you can’t see it this way; it may not be long until the same thing happens again. Something very similar could happen or it could be even more serious.
A machine
One will be a human being, then, but act more like a human doing. From the time they wake up to the time they go to sleep, they can be on the go.
There’s a chance they won’t wake up feeling refreshed, need something to get going, and may find it hard to sleep at night. Their minds can be filled with things they haven’t done that day and what they want to do the next day, making it hard for them to switch off.
no desire to change
Living this way is going to take its toll, so regardless of whether or not they make a lot of money; it won’t work for them. However, if they were asked if they like living this way, they would probably say yes.
They could say that as stressful as their life is, they wouldn’t trade it for the world. It may seem strange how someone can be comfortable with something that is slowly destroying them and depriving them of so much.
What’s going on?
Chances are, if they were to slow down, let alone stop working, they’d start to feel very nonconformist. At first, they may feel agitated, restless, and it could be as if they are being deprived of something they desperately need in order to survive.
If they stay with what they feel, they might end up getting in touch with deeper feelings. This could be a time when they experience shame, guilt, and even self-hatred, and may feel worthless, unloved, rejected, and abandoned.
a deeper level
What this might show is that their early years were not very nurturing, this being a stage in their life where they were deprived of the nutrients they needed to be able to grow and develop properly. This would have caused them to experience a lot of pain and prevented them from developing a felt sense of love and worth.
Spending most of your time working will then be a way to avoid this pain and will be a way to feel loved and valued. Deep down, they may believe that if they work hard enough and long enough, they will finally be worth loving and worth living.
Why work?
As for why they got hooked on work and not something else, this may also be due to the environment they grew up in. Perhaps they were raised by at least one caregiver who was also a workaholic.
This would have been unconsciously seen as a way of receiving what they missed. Alternatively, they may have been forced to work from a young age and this would have meant that their adult life is simply a continuation of what they were forced to do at this stage in their life.
Awareness
If someone can relate to this and is ready to change their life, they may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.
Part of moving on will be for them to grieve their unmet childhood needs, as this will play a big part in allowing them to realize that they are lovable and worthwhile. And, as they gradually accept this on an emotional level, their need to work all the time is likely to gradually subside.
