“TEEN”, this word itself, gives parents the nightmare or, to put it another way, goosebumps.
If we introspect, we will come to the conclusion that at some point, we also experience the same things that our children are experiencing now. In fact, everyone has to go through this stage. So why all the fuss and crying about it?
It is the tendency of every human being to be skeptical of change.
Change is never acceptable to any of us, regardless of where or country we live.
So how would we accept such a big change in our children? Which is sadly true, as a TEEN, it involves change – A physical change and a mental change.
This is the most difficult stage in everyone’s life, as a child is about to become an adult, leaving their childhood behind. It is the most sensitive phase that must be handled with great care and compassion.
Adolescent, it can well be compared to a mirror, if handled carefully, it will reflect the sweet memories when the child looks back, if not, it would break and always leave the scars behind.
Therefore, it becomes the responsibility of parents and adults, such as grandparents in the family, to treat teenagers with tact.
Teenagers suffer from typical symptoms such as:
1) Do not pay attention to what you say.
2) Always in a bad mood and thinking that he is always right.
3) Prove your points and get arrogant.
4) Does not like the company of family members.
5) The importance of friends in their lives increases to such an extent that they fight with their parents over them.
The above list is illustrative only and not exhaustive.
The best way to deal with Teenage Blues is:
1) Become an active listener to them.
2) To understand your concerns first.
3) Don’t treat your friends like your enemies. They need friends at this stage of their lives.
4) Be their friend, trustworthy and problem solver too.
5) Don’t set rules for them without giving them reasons. Tell them the consequences of not following the rules.
6) Have faith in them.
7) Give them some work and responsibility for it too.
8) If you tell them not to do certain things, give them reasons for it and remember, they are no longer little children, they will listen to you without waiting for the logical response on your part.
9) If they question you about certain things, don’t be offended like now, they want reasons for everything. They will not accept your orders as is.
10) They should also know about your teenage days and how you behaved with your parents. What mistakes did you make and how did you correct them? Who else is going to do the honors, but none other than the grandparents!
11) If the grandparents are yours, in the house then there is nothing like that since some children open up very easily with the grandparents.
12) Sometimes grandparents act as a link between parents and grandchildren.
In summary, what I want to say is:
TEENAGERS today are the most misunderstood class in the entire world.
It is the responsibility of the adults in the family to understand them, since they have more experience and maturity to handle them.
Adult proactivity is very important when a child’s behavior changes.
Enjoy this stage of your children as they are preparing to face the new challenges of the outside world.
If you can enjoy the first step, the first words of your little children, then do not forget, this is also the first step of your own little child, who now wants to take the great leap to face the whole new world outside.
Instead of accusing, stand firmly behind them like a friend, guide and support them to take the big step. Give them your hand when they need it.
Always watch your actions, since children from the beginning learn everything by watching you.
If your behavior doesn’t match your actions, then they won’t respect you and they won’t listen to you.
The most important thing is to always show a lot of love and compassion towards them.
Be strict but not rude. And please don’t take them to doctors, counselors or psychiatrists, because who else can understand your child better than you?
Take full responsibility for your children. Absorb good values into them from the start. These values and your good deeds are definitely recorded in the back of their minds.
Even if their behavior is not good now, but once they pass this stage, they will definitely become good human beings with good moral values.
Always remember, adolescence is a changing stage and every change has to change, accept this change and take full responsibility for this change to happen in a positive way, to see how they become good citizens and good human beings.
