Many couples are struggling in their marriage today for the simple reason that they are simply co-existing. The communication that takes place between husband and wife is minimal or even non-existent. When this happens, it causes problems in the marriage, as communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
People want close relationships in their lives, and none of them are more important than the relationship with your spouse. If we have a break in that relationship, it will affect every other area of our lives. Ask yourself a few simple questions to see if you are just co-existing as a couple or really a communication partner. Do you take time each day to share the day’s events, what’s going well and what’s not, and just talk about the things you enjoy?
Or are they just giving each other enough information to get through the day as efficiently as possible? Do you often keep secrets from your spouse? Or do you tell them everything, even the things you’d rather not say? When your spouse speaks, is he really listening or is he thinking of the next item on his “to do” list? Also, when you speak, do you feel heard? Do you go out of your way to avoid conflict with your spouse or, on the other hand, do you feel like your spouse can’t do anything right?
The answers to these questions will probably tell you a lot about where you stand in your marriage. If you are just consciously coexisting, make a commitment to change. Restore communication in your relationship. This will definitely help you get your marriage moving in a positive direction.
